He makes comments like %26quot;Are you hungrey? %26quot; %26quot;It kinda sticks with you doesn%26#039;t it? In a sarcastic and rude way. I do not say anything when he says his comments. He looked at one of my photos from back in 1997 and said: %26quot;What happened to you Annetta? %26quot;You look alot different now than you did back then.%26quot; I said that I grew up and changed in looks and my figure, keep in mind I was still going through puberty at the time so no wonder I was different in features then compared to now. He said: %26quot;You didn%26#039;t grow up, you grew out.%26quot; I feel he is making me feel uncomfortable to see how far he can push me to say something, but then again, I can take it from someone I do not know, but when it is your dad making the comments, it makes you feel really bad. I am a heavy person, I have gotten heavier over the years, and have obesity and other health problems in my biological family. I do not have the best diet in the world, but I am not that bad really, I eat fruits and vegetables and what is cooked.|||what a jerk. you know what just ignore him you can%26#039;t change who he is. Just let him be himself and let the comments go. That is an awful thing to have to go through. Must make your self confidence so low. But for some reason he feels that he needs to put you down. Maybe his father or mother did the same to him.|||You need to tell him how you feel ,and that his rude comments are not helping you at all. If he won%26#039;t stop try commenting about how he looks really old, or is getting gray and say %26quot;What happened to you Dad?%26quot;, and then ask how he likes it.|||It is okay because the constitution says so. It is horrid though. Your dad needs to get his head checked. You say that obesity in your family, your father should know that. Next time he asks what happened, tell him it%26#039;s at least partially his fault, since he contributed to your dna. Also, consult a physician about your weight and find out what to do.|||i%26#039;m sorry, but that%26#039;s horrible. he shouldn%26#039;t say things like that unless he%26#039;s seriously concerned about you and you%26#039;re actually doing something really unhealthy. and even then he shouldn%26#039;t be so rude. the best i can tell you is to definitely not take it to heart and even talk to him about it if it really hurts you. it sounds like you don%26#039;t have a problem with you, so you shouldn%26#039;t care or change just because he does.
good luck|||Talk to him about it and tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable.|||Dont worry about him fatso, I expect some fat slob will fancy you when all the slim beautiful alternatives have been snapped up. You just chill, you are big boned, not fat and lazy.|||Of course it hurts when your Dad makes comments but he is trying in his way as poor as it is, to tell you he is concerned about the weight. He will be your Dad and a caring parent all of your life!
SO, if you are overweight (aren%26#039;t we all) do you want to lose the weight? Since obesity runs in the family you are working against genetics. Go have a physical and have the doctor check your thyroid level, which controls weight. Remember it is the total calories you eat (cooked or not) in relation to the total calories your body burns that causes you to gain or lose weight.
Go to a library and look for a book called %26quot;Fat Chance in a Slim World%26quot; or google ADA (American diabetic diet) and read and learn.
I know at my advanced age that I am overweight because I LOVE to eat. There is no such thing as one cookie or one bowl of chiops, etc. in my life. But when I set my mind to losing weight I can and I have recently began to lose weight.
Remember diet does not mean low calorie. That is why it is best to read about dieting, not follow a fad diet like no carbs or only carrots, but rather a balanced low calorie diet like ADA. You do not have to be a diabetic to benefit from an ADA diet. And, if you are overweight it could eventually lead you to be diagnosed as diabetic.
And again, your father is going about it the wrong way but he is trying to help. Make a pack with him about losing 10 pounds and doing out to dinner to celebrate. Get ric of the cookies, candy, chips, etc. And remember that even drinking four diet sodas a day can cause you to gain 10 pounds in one year, really.
Good luck|||I think your father is maybe concerned for you and your health, and rightly so. But he should not ridicule or make personal remarks about your body. If he wishes to be helpful, ask him how he thinks you need to change; hear him out, and then make your own deduction from what he says about whether he is right or not. In other words, take what you need from it and see if it can help you. Thank him for being concerned, then let it go.
Then ask him to keep his opinions to himself as he has already told you what they are, and you have heard him.|||It is rude, inconsiderate, and disrespectful for your dad to making such comments if you ask me. He should be encourging you to get healthier not ridoculing you about it. If he really wanted to help you change for the better he would said things like hey lets go for a walk or some other sort of activity so that you two can not only conquer the issue together but at the sametime bond and maybe grow closer. You should tell him his comments bother you and ask him to refrain from making such comments in the future!|||He is trying to be %26quot;fatherly%26quot; in the only way he knows.
Fathers are there to keep us in touch with reality---Mothers see the world as they %26quot;wish%26quot; it would be.
Treasure the fact that he speaks to you, or notices you at all.
Some loving, good, fathers will not give any feedback, period!
Sometimes we need a push to get us going in the right direction, and it%26#039;s very irritating! We know our parents are right, but we hate to be reminded of it.
Admit to your father that he%26#039;s right, but that you%26#039;ve got to be you, too. Forget your hurt feelings, and appreciate him.|||Bad enough that kids and others make fun but the fact that your dad is doing this is very nasty and sad. I would really talk to him and tell him how much this is hurting you. And the hurtful comments might make you eat more out of depression. It is sad when so called adults are the one who act immature like kids. Perhaps you might ask your dad, instead of making rude remarks perhaps he could help you and encourage you by having the whole family eat better, do sports with you or go on walks with you! Good luck to you hun, but do talk to him at least!|||your father is being very insensitive and i feel very bad for you b/c i know that hurts your feelings-i think you should tell your father that there is constructive critiscism and then just plain critisism and that when he says things like that its not constructive, it just hurts your feelings-|||i am sorry your dad is saying things that are hurtful, especially about your weight. sometimes dads have far too much to say. could be you may be suffering from depression.maybe a visit to the doctor might be in order. tell him how you feel and be honest .doctors are very discreet and will keep everything you tell them confidential.really sounds like you need to talk to someone who knows what they are talking about. he could refer you to a dietitian and maybe you could learn a healthy way to eat which would keep your dad off your case.what have you got to lose [no pun intended] its worth a try so ,go for it . you will at least feel better about the whole situation.
